Ringofroses wrote: ↑12 Dec 2020, 12:58
Thank you SO much.. that would be very helpful.
It's all a little much when you start isn't it? I get a great vibe and trust my interpretations when just randomly pulling to learn.
Nothing wrong with that! Random pulls of 1-2 cards to answer a question that just pops up really is a good way to learn. Since you are using a RWS deck, there are so many online resources available too
I would just keep a tarot journal if you don't already and writing down or typing out notes for the cards. The one I've got going currently on Penzu is 80 days strong which is a record for me, lol.
Yesterday, I was writing something for the website I've got going live in two weeks. "A spread is a method of laying down cards in a specific order in a specific pattern to enhance a reader’s ability to answer questions." Each card slot in the spread is meant to give the reader and querent a piece of information that works as a sentence in a paragraph: you need them all to tell the story. Otherwise, it's a jumble of words.
My reading as a 5 card cross spread.
1- 2 of cups
2- 6 of pentacles
3- The Hanged man
4- 8 of pentacles
5- 10 of cups
So here is a
five card cross relationship spread. This one has these positionals:
1. Your place in the relationship/ perspective: 2 of Cups
2. Your partner's place/ perspective: 6 of Pentacles
3. The foundations of the relationship: The Hanged Man
4. Present state /issues between you: 8 of Pentacles
5. The likely outcome: 10 of Cups
Now looking at your original reading with every card tying to something specific, its a lot easier for me as a fellow reader to make an interpretation. As an empath, even across the Internet, I have a pretty good idea of how ~you~ want things to go, but because I'm a strong empath, I need to rely on the structure for reading even more to make sure I'm able to separate myself from my querent's desires and give impartial accurate information.
1. Your place in the relationship: You are very committed to having a deep romantic connection with this other person
2. Your partner's perspective: This person has a focus on something besides you. It isn't a romantic focus, but it could easily be work, family, a cause of some kind where they are very busy doing something they feel is important at making some aspect of the world a better place.
(so right off the bat, I see both of you have different priorities as far as a romantic relationship together)
3. The foundation of the relationship: The Hanged Man is a hard card to interpret in a reading about a romantic relationship, because its a card of stasis and personal reflection. So if I was reading for a client, I'd actually pause and go "How did you both meet?" and that answer might spark something either in the events or just the way the client talked their tone and emotions.
4. Present state: 8 of Pentacles goes immediately straight back to #2 and 6 of Pentacles for me as a kneejerk intuitive response. I said your partner has a focus and this says that when you did your first reading? He was at work work work on whatever that focus was and had no time/energy to spare.
5, Likely outcome: 10 of Cups is a ~very~ auspicious card for you. Its basically the end goal for someone who starts with a 2 of Cups. So the message this entire reading gives me personally is "This is a great person but he's terribly busy right now and the best thing you can do is be patient, supportive and just let things be casual or even platonic, be a good friend but keep in touch and show your affection because the future looks exceptional."
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Ringofroses wrote: ↑12 Dec 2020, 12:58
For clarification I asked again a few days later and got... (With a 7 card spread someone told me to try)
1- wheel of fortune
2- 8 of pentacles
3- Ace of cups (reversed)
4- 3 of cups
5- 5 of wands
6- the world
7- judgement (reversed)
More confused than ever
Thank you so much for your reply and offer to help with more info. Really appreciate it
oh and I used the smith-waite cards
Hopefully, my thoughts about the first reading were insightful and triggered some ideas for you.
My suggestion would be to grab that 7 card spread someone told you to try and type out the positionals the way I did your first reading and then type out what each of them means the same way in another post and that way we can all give our impressions of your thoughts and the situation and help with the specific parts that seem the most confusing.
Typing my self-readings to myself, basically doing for my own daily reading the same thing I just did for yours in my journal usually helps me more in both getting insights and retaining them (not to mention being able to flip back at the end of the day or situation and going "OHHH! That's what that was about!")
